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Nov 11, 2023Liked by Ojuọlape

I have sorely missed this writing...no less so this writer.

My resentment for transitions beggars belief, and one is staring me squarely in the face right now (I have managed to kick the can down the road a little bit, even though that singular act is costing me more money than I am comfortable parting with). I guess the older we get, the more painstaking we become just so that we do not topple the life we have managed to put together. The repercussions of mistakes, I have realized, are proportional to one's age. If it weren't for the expectations people have of me (and I of myself), I'd indulge that craving to be heedless.

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It’s interesting, isn’t it? At every point in our lives, the repercussions loom ahead, even when we’re supposedly younger.

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Nov 11, 2023Liked by Ojuọlape

Mehn...reading this launched my mind a cesspool of chaos. Like someone finally gets it. Tried quitting my job in January, then I got promoted with perks. Decided again to quit in September, got promoted again, with more perks. Everyday I wake up feeling like an imposter. I keep thinking to myself, wetin I really dey do?

Sunk cost fallacy, Psychological inertia, cognitive dissonance, all three are probably valid assessments of my own internal conflict.

Deciding to build a new universe when the old is thriving and functional is wayyy harder than I ever imagined it would be.

Newton could have been fairer to Inertia.

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It’s truly HARD. Wishing you the absolute best!

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Welcome back, Lape ❤️

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Thanksss, Dunni! 🤍

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i missed this newsletter.

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Thank you, Treasure 🥹

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Hii! I relate so much to this because looking back, I also can't believe I've become a different person. It's not usually noticeable to others but I know I have changed.

I also noticed that I just need a tiny tweak in my daily routine to become a brand new person... I guess that's the inertia you referred to. Also making these tiny tweaks usually makes making the next tweak just a little easier.

Thank you for sharing!

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Exactly, those little changes make all the difference!

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